“My (27F) boyfriend (35M) fell asleep on me and I don’t know how to feel, am I being sensitive?”
Been seeing each other for about 4 months. He invited me over. I got an Uber to his and I let him know my eta. I immediately sent him my eta about 3 mins after he gave me the address. I got there 45 mins later at 8pm, and I think he fell asleep. I called numerous times and banged the door down but nothing.
I was in the rain for ages trying to get through to him. He’s done this before where he’s fallen asleep at a hotel and luckily the concierge gave me a key anyway (even though my name wasn’t on the booking). I had to order another uber home and it’s ended up being expensive and he knows I’m strapped for cash so that added salt to the wound. It wasn’t a last minute thing, he’d planned this a few days ago.I felt so angry and embarrassed coming back home when I was so excited to spend the next couple of days with him. It’s been 3 hours since and I still haven’t heard from him. He is a pretty deep sleeper and doesn’t even wake up when I shake him sometimes.I feel so upset I ended up crying on the street and I’m still feeling really down about it now. I’m aware that I can be over sensitive, but I feel like I could end the relationship over this. Any advice?
This is what people had to say to OP:
haunted_vcr said:
What the hell is wrong with him? Does he abuse alcohol or sleeping pills, or work some completely batsh!t job? I think if someone did that once, okay freak accident, but more than that… I wouldn’t accept it.
OP responded:
Yeah I think I may have left a key detail out sorry. He has a history of alcohol abuse, last time he did this to me (when we were casually seeing each other maybe 7 months ago) he was extremely intoxicated. He’s been clean for a good few months, and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt but I’m really worried he’d been drinking which is why he’s still out for the count…
LadyPitu321 said:
Also, he should at least offer to pay for the uber
Mandalabouquet said:
I’d be absolutely enraged by this and he would probably be blocked after only 4 months of dating. He’s 35 years old! I mean ffs get in the shower or do some activity for the 45 minutes you need to wait for your guest to arrive.. and it isn’t even the first time!
