“AITA for not taking my niece who has cancer with me on my honeymoon??”
I know this sounds so wrong and weird because it is. Like I don’t even know how I’m in this situation. But basically I’m the youngest out of 4 siblings and I’m getting married next month to my fiancée and partner of 7 years who I’ve been with since we were both 17, and we’re going on our honeymoon to Italy and France.
My oldest brother has 3 kids including a 9 year old daughter who’s the middle kid and she sadly was diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago at 6. It broke the entire family and we really love her.
The treatments and everything have basically bankrupted her parents and we’ve all been helping out with what we can but they’re still broke and can only afford the basics, so no vacations or toys, and it’s really sad.
NTA. Have they contacted Make-A-Wish? Taking a seriously ill kid to Europe without her parents is asking for nothing but trouble. Tell everyone with an opinion to pool their money so her parents can take her to Europe.
Make sure to offer to contribute too. It would be great for your niece and her family to have those memories, but it can’t be on you to give up your honeymoon and take on the huge responsibility of her care.
Came here to say this! I would be too worried to take her both away from her parents and to another country while so sick, regardless of it being a honeymoon or a regular vacation. What happens if she has a medical emergency while abroad?
NTA. Tell your brother you really can’t afford an extra person to take with you. And tbh it is kind of an unreasonable request to ask of you. And your brother said it’s not looking good for your niece so travelling without parents and medical care is not really a smart idea. I just hope your brother doesn’t tell your niece anything and break her heart and pressure you.
NTA. It is insane anyone would expect you to take a medically fragile child on your honeymoon. It’s even more insane to take a medically fragile child on an international flight away from her care team
NTA. It’s YOUR Honeymoon. You two get married and need to spend that time together.
NTA, your brother sounds extremely entitled to even ask.
BandicootFlimsy4434 (OP)
My brother is a good man and a great dad, but he’s watching his baby slowly dying man, that’ll mess anyone up.
EVEN if you wanted to take her on your honeymoon, could your niece get medical clearance from her doctors to travel abroad? Is she physically able to make such a trip and be comfortable on that trip?
