I 20F live with my parents and the upper floor is totally mine. My parents never come upstairs and upstairs I have my bathroom, toilet, bedroom, home office and my walk in closet. My mom however has this habit of showing her friends around the house who haven’t seen it yet as they as for a tour and before I know my mom will be upstairs with a bunch of her friends.

Now the days I’m home, I’m either in my pjs or a comfy bathrobe. I have asked my mom multiple times not to come upstairs, because that is my space and she always tells her friends “I don’t clean this my daughter is responsible for it” and she knows that especially when I am in exam season I barely have time to clean so it can get messy. This has already happened once, once she came upstairs when I just walked out of the shower and was brushing my teeth in a bathrobe (luckily). I always tell mom not to do this and she’ll always say, ok I won’t do it again.

Last week this happened again, I was laying sick in bed and watching tv and suddenly 3 woman are standing in my room judging the design, the walls and partially the mess on my make up table. I firmly told my mom not to do this ever again because I’d break her heart the next time and I attach value to my space and privacy, I told her if she really needed to show te place she could just ask beforehand if the place is ok, if I’m available, as she never comes upstairs and for the same I’m just walking out of the shower. She again said she wouldn’t do it.

Yesterday I hear noises coming from downstairs and thinking they won’t come upstairs. I walk out of my office and see 3 heads on the stairs, my mom in front. I gave my mom a sharp look hoping she’d understand, she did and I saw she did but she kept walking upstairs and telling her friends ‘come look’ and I stood there at the top of the stairs and said loudly “sorry ladies, the place is really not available and I am also in a important meeting (I wasn’t) so please leave and come back another time”. My mom got really angry saying she got embarrassed and it was rude of me. I told her she should have kept her promise and there wouldn’t be a problem and as she didn’t she had more to be embarrassed about than just her friends. So AITAH?