AITA for not allowing my children to call my mother “Honey”
I (29F) have been thinking about starting a family recently. My mother (50f) recently stated she does not want her grandchildren to call her grandma but wants them to call her “honey”. She says she wants something uniquely different, she thinks it’s endearing and says she will be sweet as honey to her grandkids.
She and her husband call each other honey and I consider it a romantic pet name and think it is odd as a grandparent name. My siblings agree with me. My husband thinks we should just let her choose whatever name she wants but I cringe every time I think about it and want us to come up with something else we all like. She thinks I’m being the asshole and it will be her grandchildren so she gets to decide. AITA?
TLDR: my mom wants her grandchildren to call her honey and I want us to pick a different name as I think honey is weird.
Edit: I’ve seen several people ask why this is even a conversation now. We have a dog and since my mom has decided on honey as her grandparent name, whenever she is talking to our dog, she is calling herself honey. “Don’t you love when honey comes to visit. You love honey don’t you?” I roll my eyes and then the back and forth starts with the name.
I’ve made some suggestions like even grandma honey but she is adamant it will only be honey. If the grandkids call her something else, she plans on correcting them and saying to call her honey.
Other OP:
info can you mix the two and let the kids call her Gunney?
I asked if we could compromise and use NeyNey and she said nope she just wants honey
What about just grandma honey? I used to call on of my grandma’s grandma Sasha bc that was the name of her cat
Grandma Honey was in fact what we called my great grandma.
I think we have a solution here! “Grandma Honey” works well. It knocks off any perceived romantic edge, sounds normal, and yet is still unique.
I strongly suggest that you drop the topic and let Ms Honey believe she has won. Just let time do it’s thing, hopefully bringing you, before very long, the strong healthy babies whom you all look forward to embracing. Teach the oldest child from infancy that this is his or her “Grandma Honey” and soon no one will be able to undo it.
(My own mother cringed that she got called “Granny” by my brother’s kids, as she saw it as less respectful than “Grandmother”, but the name had been engraved upon the 1st kid’s young mind, and my Mom was out of luck in this regard.)
NTA – but i would just let it go. You are driving your self crazy with what ifs and kids rarely call grandparents what they want it usually comes out some kind of baby gargle and that is what sticks.
Eh just let the kids pick. My mom was hellbent on being called Baba because she’s Ukrainian (which is fine), except that my daughter couldn’t remember how to pronounce it and just started calling my mom papa instead 😂
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