“AITA for leaving my in-laws’ Christmas dinner after I found out that they didn’t make accommodations for me?”
I got invited to my fiance’s family Christmas celebratory dinner. It’s my first Christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. I can’t help it; it has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes.
Before accepting their invitation, I let MIL know that I wouldn’t be eating the traditional food at their celebration and showed her various dishes to accommodate me. She refused and told me to bring my dish. I said if I had to cook my own dish as a guest, I better stay home.
We went back and forth, and I insisted I wouldn’t come if accommodations weren’t being made. My fiance agreed that I should bring my dish, but I didn’t. I just thought it was a simple request, and MIL could’ve decided if she wanted me there.
When we arrived there, and I saw that no accommodations were made, I got up, got my things, walked out, and went home. My MIL and fiance were shocked. I got tons of calls and texts from them both and my fiance came home lashing out, calling me selfish and spoiled to walk out like that over a dish that his mom didn’t have to make for me.He said that it was my responsibility to feed myself. How is it my responsibility to provide for myself when I’m a guest? I told him this, and he accused me of starting sh*t, ruining my first Christmas with his family, and disrespecting his mom. Now he’s continuously saying I f*$#@d up and should’ve sucked it up for the family’s sake.
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
DecayedMagnolia says:
YTA. From one picky eater to another. I went to a Christmas dinner with my mom’s family. There was nothing I wanted, so I just socialized and ate when I got home. Why should she have to make a whole new dish just for you? That is pretty entitled behavior.
MaybeAWalrus says:
Let me recap. You DEMANDED some food was made to your liking, and when people told you ‘no,’ instead of cooking food for yourself, you caused a scene ?! Yeah, YTA. If you have things you don’t like to eat, it’s YOUR problem. You are not a child anymore. Start acting like an adult.
OrangeCubit says:
YTA – they did offer to accommodate you, by allowing you to bring your own dish.
My thing with people like this who are extra picky, yes you may give me a list of “acceptable options” but I will guarantee OP would not like the way it’s cooked. She will find some way to nitpick. Her issue is t about being picky, it’s about control. Food is her way of controlling the situation.
OP adds:
ETA to clear a few points:
- For those saying I have no respect for my in-laws. I do, especially my MIL. I respect her, but this is, so far, the most significant conflict we have had.
- I work long hours, even on holidays, so I do not have much time to cook.
- I wasn’t asking for an elaborate dish or several dishes—just a straightforward option.
