I had my kids young and struggled for a long time. In and out of shelters government assistance the whole thing. I worked my way out of poverty and by my early 30s I was finally making decent money. I put two of my kids through college on my own and theyre thriving now with good careers. My youngest is still in school living on campus.

I never got child support. Their father was extremely abusive and Im lucky we got out alive.

I met my boyfriend Scott during my 30s. We went through a lot because he had such a hard time accepting that I had kids. Eventually he proposed and we moved in together.

Heres the thing though. We split everything 50/50 even though he makes three times what I make. He picked out this luxury apartment with a doorman and a fancy gym and all these amenities. I had to work 80 to 100 hour weeks just to cover rent groceries and bills. He never once offered to adjust the split to reflect our income difference. Never offered to help.

I kept thinking eventually hed see how hard I was working and want to ease my burden a little. I thought he loved me enough to want to help. I thought hed eventually see how great my kids are and want to be there for them too.

He has millions saved. He talks about it constantly. Tells everyone about his investments and how well theyre doing. He owns a luxury car I’m not allowed to drive. He shows me his bank balance and talks about expensive vacations and condos he wants to buy.

When we go on trips I pay my half and Ive gone into debt trying to keep up. My kids are never invited. I take them on vacation separately on my own.

This year my son needed help with tuition. He got turned down for a loan and I was short by a lot. I had to ask Scott for help. He paid the deposit but made it clear it was a loan and gave me a timeline to pay him back. When I couldnt make the deadline he made me take out a loan to pay him back.

At this point I feel like Im doing everything on my own anyway. I cook I clean I give him massages because he loves having his back touched. I maintain relationships with his family and friends. Meanwhile he works 8 days a month and sleeps until noon. Im at work by 7am every day.

I want to break up with him. I feel like Im with a millionaire but still living in poverty. Am I wrong for expecting more after 10 years together? AITJ?