My mom has never taken me seriously when it comes to my things. As a child it was small stuff like moving around my furniture without asking or using my things without permission. Now, it’s become a bigger issue.

I’m very particular about my things, where I want them to be, and most importantly, cleanliness. I cannot stand dirt (we used to live in a home with mice, ants, pests, I’d often wake up to bugs on me and it drove me insane, my mom never cared, I had to clean the home everyday even as a child). My mom will come into my home and touch random objects and she brings my bratty preschooler sister with her. They touch things from family heirlooms to my childhood toys and leave behind butter, grease and never reorganise what they touched. The last time I spent an hour washing one of my candle holders while crying (yes I probably have some form of OCD). I keep telling the to stop, I’ve told my mom I don’t want her in my home anymore but she keeps showing up unannounced.

She also ‘borrows’ things. She takes stuff without asking. She tried to take my inherited 3000 dollar bracelet to a gold shop to ‘check it’s worth’ but I refused. At some point during this she took an heirloom ring from me without my permission and sold it. I’m glad I didn’t give the bracelet to her cause she would’ve definitely sold it too.

I told her I’d report her to the police but she laughed at me. I told her I don’t think I wanna see her anymore and she got upset, but I’m seriously considering reporting her for theft, however she paid what she got from the shop for the ring so I don’t know if I even have a case or not.

Feel free to ask for clarification on any of this.