AITAH for refusing to tell my wife I love her more than my dad?
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Not even strategic in a sly way, but absolutely reasonable. He did the dirt why should you have to put yourself out financially by immediately ending the relationship at the time he cheated. That’s going to cost you a huge amount in upheaval to your life. He thinks you should have shouldered that cost based on idiot logic.
He believes he should be immune to consequences of his actions and believes everyone else should be put out instead. And if I was to try and sum up everything that’s wrong in the world in terms of geopolitics right now I couldn’t do it better than that.
and it’s not like she was directly taking from him. she paid all of her roomate costs and did all of the homecare that he was used to while slowly stepping away from the relationship. saving up money on the side is different than draining a joint account suddenly.
NTA, you had an exit strategy and left on your terms. Perfect. Cheaters don’t deserve honor or consideration. As for you blindsiding him? Lol, did he forget he was fucking another woman while being your BF? The mutuals who thinks you messed up his relationship? Fuck them. Call them out for being idiots and then cut them off.
I would asked the other woman if she knew about you right to her face. That happened to my cousin, btw. This lady walked up to her and her cheating scum BF and asked her if she knew he was married. In a crowded restaurant. Dude bolted. Cousin told her she didn’t know and dumped the guy.
Definitely NTA. Wow, this is honestly amazing. I’m super impressed you held it together those months. Good on you for saving so much, times are tough and you’ll need it.
NTA. I am APPLAUDING YOU!
Oh, he’s embarrassed??
Maybe don’t be a lying, cheating, dicksnippet then, moron.
The fact that he has the gall to try and turn any of this around onto you, and that anyone would even entertain it for a second is ASININE.
You didn’t use him or even harm him, you OUTSMARTED HIM. You turned his lying/cheating, shitty behavior into a way to protect yourself, and went about your business until you could cleanly exit.
He was just pissy because you beat him at his own game- he couldn’t continue USING YOU as a backup plan/steady roommate.
What an absolute loser. I hope that Maggie dumped him and told everyone that would listen what a joke he is. I hope you’re out there living your best life. BRAVA, OP.
NTA. You were smart and did well, as a guy that hate cheating I’ll say well played. Hope everything turns out well for you and the next guy you meet is a faithful decent one
Not him trying to claim he was “blindsided” by you leaving when you guys haven’t been intimate or romantic for months.
Men really do think we’ll stay through anything.
NTA You did what you had to do to move out, nothing wrong with that.
I’m glad you said something, the other woman deserves to know she was being lied to and cheated on for months.
