so i (26f) had my friend (27m) watch my place and my cat for the weekend. i told him he could “help himself to whatever” in the kitchen which i thought was just like… common sense for snacks and stuff?

i get back and realize he opened this $120 bottle of vintage barolo i was saving for my promotion. he literally drank the whole thing alone while watching netflix. when i asked him about it he got all weird and said i “gave him permission” bc the wine was in the kitchen. like okay but who drinks a hundred dollar bottle of wine without asking first???

i sent him a venmo for $80 (gave him a discount lol) and now hes calling me tacky and told our group chat im a bad host. i feel like there’s literally an unwritten rule of guest logic where u dont touch the most expensive thing in the house. if i tell u to help yourself to my garage it doesnt mean u can just drive off in my car??

idk am i the asshole here? he’s making me feel like im being extra but i feel like he totally took advantage of me… idk it’s also just $120